Comments on: The Writer’s Block: An Invisible Woman

By: Ti

Ti — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 04:18:59 +0000

This just happened to me today! I went shopping with my hot friend and I noticed at least 10 men giving her “the look”. What am I? Chopped liver? I mean, I am not hot like her. I know this, but at least look at me and then look at her. That’s all I ask. And the thing is…she is completely oblivious to it. It doesn’t matter what she is wearing or where we are. We were at the Citadel Outlets today and I could not tell you how many men gawked at her. I mean, we were shopping. Not washing a car or walking the beach or anything.

I don’t notice this with any other friend. Just her. It’s hard living in her shadow. Wasn’t that a Bette Midler song??
.-= Ti´s last blog ..The Sunday Salon: Vacation Wrap-Up =-.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 13:33:09 +0000

I feel your pain. I used to be fairly cute and perky once upon a time. So did my tatas. But all good things eventually succumb to time and gravity (the girls and me both). When discussing with my husband why on earth boys have always seemed to have trouble approaching my short, brunette self but never my tall, blonde friends, he maintains that I give off an intimidating air of intelligence. Now, given that I have tall, blonde friends who are every bit as intelligent as I am (or more so), I can’t possibly believe this but that doesn’t stop me from hugging the justification to myself. And it takes a tad bit of the sting away. Otherwise I just feel like the speed bump on the guys’ way to the prize.

Glad this one finally said hello to you and remembered the manners his mama taught him though!
.-= Kristen´s last blog ..Giveaway day 3 winners =-.

By: Margo

Margo — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 12:19:47 +0000

Sheri, I wasn’t there, so I can’t be specific, but trust me – there is much more going on in this kind of dynamic than you, as one of the players can see. I would guess at the very least, your friend is very approachable (perhaps uncomplicated?) and that the guy knows full well she isn’t available – which all may, or may not have anything to do with you. Whenever a thought pops in your head that makes you head down an insecurity spiral – talk right back to it, and tell it it’s a lie! It always is! You’re gorgeous
.-= Margo´s last blog ..Selfish Southern Lady Sends Herself a Postcard =-.

By: Sandy

Sandy — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 11:07:33 +0000

I have found that often times, the beauty queen thrives on the attention, no matter what their marital status or their outward protestations. If they ever stop getting the attention, it would devastate them. There was a day when I had the rockin’ bod and had those idiots buzzing around, and I actually took great pleasure in telling them where to go. I never really cared about the attention; I was more into my friends and it really pissed me off when the guys treated them like a piece of furniture. It’s not really the case now, I’m sorry to say, but what are ya gonna do?
.-= Sandy´s last blog ..When Katie Wakes: A Memoir – Connie May Fowler (Kindle) =-.

By: Marie Burton

Marie Burton — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 22:09:03 +0000

But as always.. Guys, as a Rule: Drool
and Girls RULE
and don’t forget that.

Self Love is important if you use it wisely. You must love yourself and others as well, and guys don’t understand that, because of their testosterone levels.
.-= Marie Burton´s last blog ..Friday Fill-In- Guess the Queen =-.

By: Marie Burton

Marie Burton — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 22:07:01 +0000

I can relate to your story as ONCE being in Jane’s position. I am now the wall flower if anything at all, but back in my day for some reason the guys always talked to me and treated my best bestest friend like dirt. I consistently felt horrible about it. I consistenly blew the guys off. Then one day I read her diary (WHAT !!) I know.. but I read the page that said how sick she was of me getting the attention. I do know I felt like utter complete sh*t.. it’s not like I ever did anything to hurt her, and I wanted to just be her best friend, that’s all. How others treated me should not have been related to how SHE treated me.
I had even dumped a guy who was awesome.. just because I found out she had liked him and was disappointed I ‘got’ him and she didn’t. Can you imagine that conversation of dumping the guy that I was getting along with great.. and trying to blow him off for an unknown reason?? I had made so many sacrifices for HER.. to spare her feelings.. and she never knew it, from people to places where we’d go eat because she was 5 pounds overweight & of course I was Ehiopian thin so she was self-concious about food…. So nope, it’s not so fun being your “jane”.
.-= Marie Burton´s last blog ..Friday Fill-In- Guess the Queen =-.

By: Kelly B

Kelly B — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 21:35:27 +0000

Oh the frustration of being in the presence of the over-focused male! I am glad he got around to asking how you were.

I can totally relate. I can pretty much deal with being 42 (not that you are 42 or look it). I actually was very comfortable with my looks and liked them until my thyroid decided to go on hiatus. It is intense how something you can’t control can drive you up a freakin wall.

I had a beauty queen for a friend when I still lived in California. We are still buds, we just can’t hang out like we did now that I am in Arizona. I imagine I would have felt much like you. I am sure it wasn’t a total picnic for her either. She did drop the relationship at the guy.

While I type this I am watching your slide show (love the picture of your and your girls where they are sitting on a white stone bench. Very cute.
You have a beautiful family, Sheri.

Anyway, I feel ya!

Have a great day! I enjoyed reading your post. It was pretty mesmerizing.
.-= Kelly B´s last blog ..Blah Blah Blah – Can’t Blog Worth A Darn…Conan O’Brien is On =-.